A Happy Coddiwomple through New Mexico: Carlsbad to Las Cruces

Day Four: Caves and Sand

We headed out from Stevens Inn in Carlsbad, NM, straight to Carlsbad Caverns National Park. Let me preface by saying that I’m claustrophobic. I’ve managed my anxiety through many caves, including Mammoth Cave National Park, Ruby Falls Cave, Fantastic Caverns and a half-dozen roadside cave attractions over the years. It’s not my favorite thing to explore.

So it wasn’t looking good for me when the first thing one must do to enter the cavern is to take a long elevator ride from the visitor center at the top of the mountain to the cavern below. If memory serves, it was something like 900 feet, so it’s a very similar experience to riding an elevator to the top of a city’s largest skyscraper – except down.

Once the doors open and we made our way through the expository displays, we were greeted with the most expansive underground view imaginable.

I’m glad I brought my DSLR camera, because it was a great place to practice low-light photography and there were just so many incredible sites, aided by artistically placed lighting throughout. I never felt claustrophobic inside Carlsbad Caverns, and I was overwhelmed with the sacred silence of the ages. The cave was filled with wonder, and the wonder filled me fully. I had to remind myself to take it in without the camera and be present in the moment to appreciate the awe. Also, low-light photography is difficult, so I should have lowered my expectations.

That dramatic lighting, though…

Much like landscapes, cave formations are better appreciated in all their glory in person. I highly recommend a visit to Carlsbad Caverns. Do it already.

After an exit through the gift shop for tacky tourist Christmas ornaments and postcards, we were back on the road. We gassed up and hit one of those fabulous little gift shops on the edge of National Park entrances. They’re usually fun, and this one earned a few of our dollars.

White Sands National Park

The drive to White Sands National Park wasn’t too far, so these two are definitely do-able on the same or subsequent days, unless your the type to hike every trail, climb every mountain and ford every stream. We’re okay with just hitting the highlights, though, and if a site is worth a second visit for further exploration – we will return.

White Sand NP is named after the white sand dunes throughout the area. We used the National Park app over the bluetooth connection in our car to take the driving tour and learned all about the history, geology and ecosystem of the White Sands. We then set out to find the easiest hike. We had learned the lesson about how difficult it is to hike in sand at the Great Sand Dunes National Park late last year. The Great Sand Dunes and White Sands’ dunes are made up of different sand, though, and this was a bit more firm.

Because these dunes are smaller, people are more capable of getting lost, and we explored the land following blue trail markers standing up in the sand. It felt like a scene out of the Legend of Zelda. My bottle had water and not a fairy, though.

Like Great Sand Dunes, some people – especially those with children – opted for sand sledding. The gift store even sold saucer sleds for such occasion. We, being of middle age, opted out of that experience.

We chose the trail that highlighted the ecosystems of desert and grassland colliding, which is where I found this tree that looks like he’s trying to escape. I may paint this guy soon:

The sun was setting after our hike, and we had to make it to our dinner plans in Las Cruces, where a former employer of mine lives. We had a lovely time catching up over dinner at Luna Rossa Winery, where my husband and I sampled a flight of their red wines, which were worthy of revisit.

After all that driving, all that hiking, all that visiting and all that wine, we made it to bed very early, as Santa Fe was calling…

Up Next: Day Five: Santa Fe

Previously: Day Three: Terlingua to Carlsbad

A Happy Coddiwomple through New Mexico: Terlingua to Carlsbad

Day Three: A whole lot of highway

We woke up at the Terlingua Ranch Lodge Resort, had breakfast at the Bad Rabbit Cafe and hit the highway, as we needed to get back up to Carlsbad.

Marfa area

This was a long leg of the trip – mostly a driving day – so we were easily attracted to roadside distractions. How could we come all this way and NOT visit Prada Marfa?! (We’ll get back to that.)

Aside from gas and food (Allsup’s became our go-to stop on this trip), our first stop was the Marfa Lights viewing station. It’s basically a rest stop built with a view of the mysterious Marfa lights. I won’t go into detail about them, but I’ll include this photo if you’d like to read the explanation on site:

Was it worth the stop? I guess. We had to pee. It was daylight, so the mystery lights weren’t visible. Maybe if the timing were better I could have seen them, but we all know how my luck is with nighttime viewing, as evidenced by the previous night’s cloudy dark sky site.

We then followed the road in to Marfa, a charming, artsy railroad town with some beautiful architectural gems.

The downtown area had a ton of galleries and shops that were mostly open during the weekend. One of the few open shops greeted us by asking: Why are you visiting on a Tuesday?

Great question. There was not much to do here on a Tuesday. Maybe I’ll return on a weekend and see all the art.

We headed north to our mid-road destination: Prada Marfa!

It’s art. Interpret as you please. I’m happy we saw it and peeked in the windows.

On your way between Marfa and Valentine (which is much, much closer to Prada Marfa), keep your eyes to the sky as the border patrol flies a surveillance blimp in the area. It was pretty cool to watch it dipping in and out of the clouds.

Guadalupe Mountains National Park

Then we headed up to Guadalupe Mountains National Park, where we hiked the McKittrick Canyon nature trail. I’ll admit to being disappointed. Guadalupe Mountains NP is primarily a hiking destination. We weren’t prepared for a long hike, and high desert mountains aren’t my favorite landscape. It just wasn’t for me.

This next part is where you learn from my fail. We took a detour to the Sitting Bull Falls without doing much research. At about 20 miles out of our hour-long detour, we saw the first sign informing us that the place was closed early in the week. We were enjoying the scenic drive through open range, so we decided to press our luck. We were disappointed in our quest to chase waterfalls, but the landscape and the canyon leading to the closed entrance to the falls was breathtaking and attracted a fair few van lifers along the way.

Carlsbad

We headed back up to Carlsbad, where we dined at the YellowBrix Restaurant, which had some tasty and THICK pork chops. Finally we wound up at an upscale and updated motor lodge: Stevens Inn, where we capped off our day with desserts and decaf.

Up next: Day Four: Carlsbad Caverns and White Sands

Go Back: Day Two: Dipping into West Texas

A Happy Coddiwomple through New Mexico: Dipping into Texas

Day Two: Off to west Texas

We woke up and pet the host cats at Fiddlers Inn in Carlsbad, NM, and took a short walk to Blue House Bakery and Cafe. The Inn had given us a breakfast voucher, and we were excited to try a local bakery. Unfortunately, I made bad choices (I was still learning about the heat of NM food), but so many of their baked goods looked amazing.

Then we loaded up and headed south, because we had a date with a National Park!

On the way to Big Bend National Park, we found Marathon, Texas. It’s a cute tiny town with a French Grocer that was home to the most eager greeter I’ve ever encountered. He was a Boston terrier named Otis, and we enjoyed a game of tug while my husband purchased our sandwiches for a picnic along the highway.

We noted in the car that the health department laws in west Texas are quite different than where I come from.

We also noted a great deal of border patrol activity and witnessed … something. Let’s just say guns were drawn. We knew we definitely weren’t in Kansas anymore.

Big Bend National Park

The road to Big Bend National Park and the drive within the park to facilities was also long. This might not be the best roadtrip for people with bad backs or small children with short attention spans.

The park features desert mountain views, lots of driving and lots of hiking opportunities. We opted for the St. Elena Canyon hike, which is a fairly difficult, but short hike. It’s definitely not handicap accessible, and there are some tight spaces and a couple steep grades with difficult footing. No extra equipment required, but water is necessary out there.


The St. Elena Canyon is carved by the Rio Grande, which is on the border with Mexico. The hike takes you along the U.S. side of the shallow river, while park rangers and tourists kayak along the water. The trail ends at a canyon dead end, though several more prepared hikers continued hiking up the river. The Mexican side of the canyon was sheer cliffs, so there wasn’t much worry about American tourists escaping south.

After the hike we drove around the west side of the park and did not make it to the areas on the east side of the park because of obligations later in the week. We left a great deal of the park for a later visit, but we did enough to add some stamps to our National Park Passport book and to justify scratching another park off our National Park scratch-off map.

If you haven’t caught on, my husband and I are nerds for the National Parks.

Terlingua, Texas

We headed up to Terlingua, Texas for dinner and had another “not in Kansas anymore” moment as we arrived in this west-Texas Oz-land.

As I understand it Terlingua was a company town that became a ghost town and then got discovered by tourists. It is home to under 100 people but hosts an annual chili contest that draws 10,000 people. Thus, the town has more camp and RV sites than one might imagine – many of them decorated and awaiting the return of the chili festival, giving the town a peculiar vibe – like that of a cluttered living room the day after a party.

It’s said to be a ghost town, but it’s lively enough that I’ve declared it a zombie town.

Terlingua is dotted with art shops and restaurants, with a steady flow of visitors looking for services not available in the park. We arrived at a highly-rated restaurant that had a 90-minute wait thanks to tour busses arriving just before us. We opted instead for La Kiva, which hit the spot with fried catfish and peach cobbler. The entrance to the place was a descent into the underground and the decor felt cavelike, rustic and charming. The bar looked like it could be a lot of fun, if we weren’t getting up early the next morning.

Our reservations were at Terlingua Ranch Lodge Resort, which was about half an hour outside of Terlingua at the end of a long dirt road. I accused my husband of luring me to my demise as we passed our dozenth Gadsden flag. There were van lifers, RV lifers, people who appeared to be homesteading and even weekend biker camp sites. I admire people who give it a go off the grid like this, even though my lack of cell phone service did give me a ping of anxiety from time to time.

The resort host greeted us, showed us to our cabin and informed us of our wifi info (THANK GOD) and dining option: the Bad Rabbit Cafe, where I started the next day with nearly perfect biscuits and gravy.

But I get ahead of myself.

One of the primary reasons for our visit was the fact that this area is an International Dark Sky site. I’ve longed to return to one ever since our first visit to the Black Canyon of the Gunnison. We’ve tried a couple other times to hit dark sky sites, but we tend to visit them on rainy nights, as was the case with this particular site.

Since it was dark and rainy with no cell service and no television, I thought I’d have to resort to writing this travel log in real time. The good news, though, was that the Lodge wifi was impressive enough that we were able to stream a couple shows in our DVR backlog.

I still would rather have watched the Milky Way, spotted constellations and been abducted by a UFO.

Up Next: Day Three: Terlingua to Carlsbad

Go Back: Day One: Roswell and Carlsbad

A Happy Coddiwomple through New Mexico: Roswell and Carlsbad

Day One

I had hoped to break this up post up into a bunch of smaller posts from day to day, but so many of my evenings have been early to bed because we’ve run and driven ourselves ragged. I have a little gas in my tank, so let’s see how far I get.

Roswell

After landing at ABQ, we rented a car and headed to Roswell in search of aliens. And boy howdy, we found ’em.

The UFO Museum in Roswell
We found our aliens.

I didn’t take enough pictures, but the whole town understood the assignment: embrace the theme, because it brings the green. Great place to find souvenirs. Didn’t stick around long, though.

Carlsbad

We spent an evening in Carlsbad, NM, near Carlsbad National Park, but this was just a waypoint as we headed the next morning to Big Bend National Park.

We stayed at a cute little inn called Fiddlers Inn that had upscale-feeling cabins around a well-kempt courtyard that was heavily patrolled by three nearly-friendly cats. The owners were helpful via text, letting us know that two were friendly, and the most friendly one was named Oreo. And Oreo might try to come into our room.

Oreo was definitely welcome in my room, but he was uninterested. Nothing worse than a snooty cat. But hey, it was the only place we stayed with complimentary cat service, so beggars can’t be choosers. When I open my own travel villa, I’ll be sure to train the cats to be friendly to all my guests.

Up Next: Day Two: Dipping into west Texas

Doing well and doing good

My artistic interests laid dormant for decades. I forgot I even had them. I got trapped in the matrices of spreadsheets and calendar and office buildings-among other square things.

A friend introduced me to Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way, where I learned how to journal again and work through traumas that I hadn’t realized were affecting me.

I’ve still not completed all 12 weeks, partially because I have unblocked my creative life pretty successfully. Isn’t that the point?

Well that’s where I am with life now: fully living in peace with my creative life, flowing in ink and paint and glue.

I’ve done other self-work in the past year, too. My health is much improved. My doctor even called me skinny today. That feels like a win.

is life perfect for me? No. But it’s meaningful, amusing and amused.

Im traveling next week, so I suspect I’ll have some opportunities for travel logs. I’ll also try to figure out how to do a mailing list or something.

Plethora.

A Year in Paint

I began painting a little over a year ago. I’m teaching myself as I go. I enjoy hiding Easter eggs and laughter in my work, even if I’m the only one be who gets it.

Anyway, this is a very early piece I did while aspiring to be a Hobby Lobby artist. For some reason, they won’t take my calls.

Fortunately, I discovered layering and editing and evolution of the piece. I’m much more proud of where this work stands today:

I suspect Hobby Lobby still won’t talk to me…

KC Sky Stations

UFOs over Kansas City
KC UAPs

I don’t think I’ve shared these yet. They have been updated since this image. These are my take on the Sky Station sculptures atop Battle Hall in Kansas City. I imagined them all taking off from their bases and launching into the sky as Unidentified Aerial Phenomena.

Unfortunately, without their scaffold bases atop the giant columns they are not as recognizable, so even when they’re finished I doubt they would have any commercial appeal.

I really like them, though.

A Stay-at-Home Artist

Since leaving corporate life, I’ve struggled how to answer the ultimate small-talk question: What do you do?

Honestly, Sharon, this week, I’m eating bonbons in a beehive wig living out my best Peg Bundy cosplay life. But that’s a lie. Like a certain pop star, I’ve been through several eras since unplugging myself from the corporate matrix. I had a music era. I had a writing era. I’m currently on my painting era.

However, I’ve never acknowledged myself as a musician or a writer or a painter. None of those words ever felt right. I’d default to “I’m a stay-at-home house husband.” For tax purposes, I’m a house manager, whenever that comes up. If it’s someone who clearly has a sense of humor, I break out the ol’ “Stay at home kitty daddy – because if I don’t teach my cats to read, who will?

This is how conversations die.

Worse, they follow up with “What did you used to do?”

“Oh, Sharon, I was fooled into believing that I belonged in a dead-end office job would somehow be satisfying because I could cling to the idea that was something good in that version of life. Would you like me to continue, or are you going to charge me by the hour to verbally relive all of my past trauma? Do you accept Cigna?

I was once at a bar and met a friendly man to whom I opened up the tiniest bit about my former career, and he revealed he worked in an associated industry. A connection was made – for him. He unleashed a flurry of questions, but I had one goal: to stop the small talk.

“I don’t discuss my previous employer.”

“Ok, but which brand…”

“I don’t discuss my previous employer. That was a very difficult time in my life.”

“Yeah, it can be really tough. Did you ever encounter…”

“I don’t discuss my previous employer. That was a very difficult time in my life. AND I’m still under an NDA.”

“Fascinating. Tell me more.”
“Fuck you.”

This is how conversations get murdered.

Vegas Sunday Sunrise

Today is Super Bowl Sunday, and the Chiefs are in it for back-to-back wins, and Kansas City is hyped today. We went into a local gift store after coffee, and Midwestern Nice has given over to Midwestern Overeagerness. The city is incredibly friendly today. I love living in a happy city, and a big championship trophy sure does make a city happy.

The enthusiastic store clerk was exceptionally chatty today in a great way. She was genuinely excited to be working on the big day. I usually shun customer service chattiness, but those darn Chiefs had me feeling pretty good, too. I made the decision to participate in something that normally terrifies me:

small talk.

Without the assistance of alcohol.

With the assistance of a caffeine boost.

We were able to keep it on the topic of local happenings when she asked my dreaded question: What do you do?

“Well, Shirley, that’s not relevant to this conversation” – would be what my inner monologue would usually tease me to say, but living fully in that moment, I strung together words I had never strung before:

I am a stay-at-home artist.

And suddenly there was connection. Our delightfully bubbly sales clerk opened up a whole wealth of information and insightful questions about what she recognized as my “creative journey.” She GOT it.

And that’s how today I learned what I currently am and what I currently do: I am a stay-at-home artist and proud of it.

Thank you Julia Cameron!

Slice of Life. Seat of Strife.

I dined with my husband at a restaurant on the east side of Kansas City’s Brookside neighborhood the other night. It’s restaurant week in KC, so staffs are on their best behavior, prepared for an influx of people who don’t dine out as often, seeking new experiences at ostensibly more affordable prices. I’ve found this not always to be the case, especially with lower ticket participating restaurants. But that’s another story for another day.

During this particular meal, a medium-large group arrived and was directed by the host to a large corner booth. It’s one that has booth seating on four sides, with one of the sides half open to the walkway, so people can get in and scooch around.

Is scooch not a word? How is it not in my dictionary? Have I spelled it entirely incorrectly? Weird. Anyway.

Four people arrived initially, and the oldest of the ladies (let’s call her Maude) asked how many people could be seated at the table. The waitress told her it could seat six to eight comfortably.

“How many does that one seat?” Maude asked, pointing to a standard, long dining table with four seats on each side.

“Eight to ten,” the waitress replied.

“Well we only have six, so if this seats six…”

The guy who appeared to be her son-in-law excused himself to the restroom and probably to take a few deep breaths while rolling his eyes in private.

“Oh, no, if you say it seats up to eight, we’ll figure it out.”

“Okay, said the waitress,” heading off to get the group their waters, as they load in to the booth.

The remaining group members arrive, except the son-in-law who is still in the bathroom.

Maude greets them.

“They say you can sit up to eight people at this table, but we only have six, so I guess it’s just supposed to work.”

The rest of her family made conciliatory sounds and worked together on some sort of seating arrangement that would allow for Maude’s clear discomfort at the situation, by seating her at the edge. They all start settling their coats in and pulling their place settings close, while Maude just stands there.

They began peppering Maude with questions to discover exactly what her objection is.

“Do you want to sit on the end?”

“Would you rather sit next to Frank?”

“Are you concerned you will have trouble getting back up?”

“Is there a draft?”

“Is the lighting not good?”

She lightly brushed off each of the potential concerns, standing there, repeating “We’ll figure out how to make it work.”

Her daughter asked why she was standing.

“Well, John’s in the restroom, and I don’t know how that will affect the seating?

Another young female asked, “Maude, we can go to that other table if you’d like.”

“Oh, don’t be ridiculous. We’ll figure out how to make this work,” she said. “I’m just concerned John won’t like it.”

The group shot glances at each other, communicating silently, as the girls started offering up gentle complaints about the seats while Maude stood quietly over them.

My husband tried to ask something of me, and I had to shush him, because there was something interesting happening behind him, and he was totally unaware. This is often how our dining experiences go. I pick up on some drama – a breakup at another table, back-of-house arguments, difficult conversations intentionally brought to a public space – while he’s obliviously slurping some French onion soup.

Behind him, the women were starting with things like “We are close to a window. It could get drafty.” And “if someone needs to get up for a restroom break, a bunch of us will need to move.”

The men hadn’t caught on: “It’s actually really warm in here.” “I don’t mind moving if someone has an emergency need.” They were very accommodating and supportive in their addressing of the women’s sudden imaginary needs.

When John, the likely son-in-law, got back, he was greeting with a table of seated family and Maude, standing and staring at him.

“Is everything okay?” John asked.

His wife said, “Well, we were thinking of maybe taking that table over there.”

“Oh, I mean if you want to get up and resettle over there that’s fine. I’m happy either place.”

“Oh,” said Maude. “You don’t need to move on my account. I just wanted to give you the choice, John.”

“Oh, well, everyone’s settled. Let’s just sit down.”

John sits down, while Maude starts finally removing her coat to be seated. The women exchange glances. The women stare daggers at the men, who finally catch on – except for poor John.

The men start making noises about discomfort. The seats are too cushy. Maybe there IS a breeze. That other table does look pretty nice.

They begin packing their things up and shuffling off to the other table. Maude continues her seating prep motions, while most of the group makes their way away from the large booth to the large table with chairs. John lingers a bit, clearly confused about what has transpired.

Maude falls into her seat as though all of her coat and purse futzing had commanded all of her attention through the commotion and she had finally approached the natural conclusion: to seat herself on the end of the now-empty booth.

“Well, I guess everyone decided that table was better, John,” said Maude. “I’m sorry, but you can’t always get your way.

Maude waddled off to take the head of the more traditional table, and John took a seat by his wife without complaint.